“Nature never rushes, yet everything gets accomplished.”

Have you found yourself stuck in this mindset too? I think we can all say we’ve been there at one point or another.

Ironically, we create the pressure we put on ourselves to be at this place in this amount of time, our expectations of what should happen, and what each step will look like – but we often feel like it’s coming from other people.

If we were to get what we wanted immediately, would it really be meaningful to us? Probably not.

We focus all of our energy on getting “there,” only to get there.

We miss out on the self-growth opportunities along the way. 

As mentioned, it causes us to think that something is wrong with us, when in reality, there are factors outside of our control. 

How can we experience the entire journey that we are on as a success, and not solely be focused on the outcome?

For starters, we have to look at how we define success. I believe that success means to whole-heartedly try your best. Often times it gets confused with a materialistic outcome like a lot of money, fame, wearing certain clothing brands, etc.

When we take the expectation out of what we think success is supposed to look like, it becomes so much easier to find joy and support ourselves along the journey. 

Ask yourself these questions:

Is my definition of success based on my core values?

How do I measure success?

Think about how you personally define success and if there are any changes you can make to your definition in order to ease up on the pressure you put on yourself, enjoy the process and let life flow instead of forcing things to happen.

Next, let’s talk about the journey itself. 

When we try to force an outcome or are hyper-focused on hitting a certain milestone, we miss out on critical life lessons. Lessons that are meant for us to learn. To shape us, grow us and enrich our lives. 

Sometimes, life will even present us with a new route that we hadn’t thought about or considered before. If we are so focused on doing things the way we want them to look, we miss out on the opportunity for a new, wonderful path to unfold.

Think of a time in your life when you got rerouted and it ended up working out for the best. 

If something isn’t happening as quickly as you’d like it to, remember there are factors out of your control at play and keep trusting that it will unfold in perfect timing. Remove your expectations of when it should happen or what it should look like, and live in the present. 

Recognize and celebrate small wins – make time to do this weekly or monthly. 

Feel the gratitude for what has gone well.

Have unwavering faith in yourself and your ability to figure it out – believe that no matter what, you are on the best course.