We all face drama in various forms every day. It isn’t easy to change your beliefs and perspective to remain positive. Someone is upset at me…things aren’t going as I planned…my children aren’t behaving…what’s for dinner…why don’t people communicate clearly…I got a flat tire on my way to work. Sometimes this might all be in one day! As Captain Jack Sparrow so wisely shares, “The problem is not the problem. Your attitude about the problem is the problem.”
Have you ever noticed that it is often easier to focus on the negative than find the positive? When you are in a state of high emotion, logic often goes out the window. This can push you down a spiral of negative thoughts. If the people you spend the most time with tend to linger in negativity…it is going to be nearly impossible for you to escape being pulled into the same pool of negativity. Managing the negativity you allow into your life isn’t just a matter of the people around you. Think about the type of content you are consuming and the messaging that you are allowing to subconsciously program your mind every day.
In order to change your perspective, you need to change your emotional and mental inputs. Find sources of positive influence such as books, blogs, and spiritual leaders. Don’t rely solely on sources of information that focus on the undesirable things happening in our world. Find podcasts and news feeds dedicated to sharing positive news, such as the Good News Network. You can even influence what comes across your social media feed by choosing not to interact with people whose news feeds are littered with negativity. And don’t forget to be your own resource for positive messaging. Employ affirmations and pay attention to your self-talk.
Manage your expectations. Upset comes from unmet expectations. It is disappointing when we think someone is going to do something and they don’t follow through. We cannot control what someone else does. However, we can better manage our own expectations. If someone has revealed himself or herself to be unreliable, but you still expect that person to follow through on something, you haven’t set anyone up for the greatest potential outcome. Be sure you are clear in your communication of expectations and avoid making assumptions to reduce drama in your life caused by unmet expectations.
It has been shared that it takes up to 6 positive thoughts to counteract one negative thought. Because happiness is something found within, by creating a change in your perspective, you can have a profound impact on your own happiness.